孩子长大咯！

一直以来，我都期待孩子会懂得如何运用电子产品，有时，我都目前的教育制度很郁闷，有时也挺开心的。在老师的指导下，如今，大宝终于有了自己的部落格。大宝的部落格

Both of YOU are GEM in my eyes! 宝贝,你们最珍贵

The value of a gem is in the eyes of the beholder. My boy has his own unique-ness which is easy going and over energetic, he has endless energy ! My girl might not carry any good value in certain peoples' eye but to me, she is unique, she has her own personality and she has the innocence-ness which a kid should have.

No doubt academic performance is important, but to me, i prefer good attitude rather than good academy performance. You may not be the top students in study, but, i am proud of you. Darling, "just believe in yourself!", "success all depends on the second letter, U!"

I keep remind both of them, don't overjoy or upset on your current performance, life is full of unexpected challenges.

Boy, i am proud of you, and good job on your academic performance! 棒!! However, i have one condition, remember rule of thumb #1, "DON'T impose too much pressure on yourself ! "
Girl, your result not as good as keke but i know you have done your very best! "Keep it up! 加油!! 输在起跑点无所谓,最重要是, 你要和赢者一起达到终点."

A Heart Wrenching Moment - 心疼你的委屈

Yesterday night, my girl told me she was whipped by her teacher due to she doesn't walk back to her desk per the way  teacher has in her mind. She mentioned to me she did try explain to her teacher, but teacher insisted she saw it differently. So end up, she being given a love whip on her palm. (I reminded my girl many many time, if teacher want to punish you, **well, can we say no, of course we can't, ** make sure teacher doesn't hit on your hear, face or vein. )

When i heard of what happened to on my girl, i was so mad. I angry at her because she doesn't has gut to defend her own self. However, after a beauty sleep , this morning when i wake up, i told me girl, "you will get to meet many different types of people in your life, some are kind, some are not. So don't because of this particular teacher and you feel all teachers are not good. There are still many kind and good teachers who you will meet later.

We always tell our kids need to be kind, to be fair, give chance to people to do their explanation, find out the truth before we make any conclusion. However, in school, there's no room for a kid to explain why they do so, before they can open their mouth, a "sign of love" will be landed on their skin. I bet it's based on Chinese idiom "打是疼,骂是爱". **sickening!** And if i go to school to have friendly talk with the teacher, some teacher will give a "free upgrade" to the kid and the kid will become the most "favorite student" in the class, and the kid will have hard time throughout the whole year. So i just keep the frustration on my heart, and forget about it after a good night sleep.

I came across an article few days ago, and the message that i get from the article is "No point wasting time and energy confronting someone who doesn't trust you at first place. You rather spend your time to do other more valuable thing. Life still goes on without this people in your life!"

宝贝,妈咪其实很心疼你的委屈. 但是, 你要记得, 不管你遇到任何困难, 妈咪会永远支持你. Don't let what you can't do stop you from doing what you can do!

Inner Struggle ~ 内心的挣扎

Has been a decade i didn't update any post. Ever since first kid started his primary school life, i have cut down the time spend in front of computer, unless i need to complete urgent work.

Today, i started to write my first post for year 2016.

**Disclaimer: This is purely my personal feel/ opinion**
As soon as i reached home, my son told me his sister gets last position in the class. When i heard of this, immediately, i felt the sky falling on me. Deep in my heart, i kept telling myself, "it's ok, not a big deal"; but on the other hand, my brain kept telling me, "no no, it's not truth, it should not ". Do i emphasize a lot on her academy performance? Of course YES. If i say No, then i am lying and avoiding facing the truth. Yes, i do care on her academy performance even though i know she has her own limitation, i can't push her too much. I kept telling myself, academy performance doesn't guarantee her future. But, at least, her result shouldn't be so bad. Otherwise, all the efforts that daddy, me and tuition teachers put on her will be down into the big monsoon drain. So, i walked to my girl and check with her, thank goodness, she gave me other answer which is much better than what the brother told me.

As for my boy, i know he has mixed feeling with his results. For this round, we encounter some bias and fairness situation. He asked me where is fairness when teacher marking their essay paper.  And i really don't know how to answer him. I can't tell him "boy, i agree there isn't fairness being applied in this round's exam marking". What i can tell him is " no point crying over spilled milk, i know you have done your best, i am happy for you."

孩子们,加油! 前面的路还很长,这次的考验,只是过云雨...别被一时的挫折打击你的信心!!! 别理张三说什么,李四要做什么, be your own-self, I am proud of you for doing your very best!

It's not a perfect world

My poor girl suddenly wake up in her sleep and cried badly saying one of her friends took away her tissue in school. Well, my girl's style is, she will be ok if her closed friend took away her thing; however, she will feel agitated if someone who is not so closed with her take or touch her thing. So, obviously, the person who took her tissue is someone who is not that closed with her. She told me she did inform teacher, but teacher told her it's small matter. Yes, to teacher , it's small matter; but, to my little girl, it's not a small matter. Can't blame the teacher, they have too many students issues to handle in school.

Luckily, she has a closed friend in school, Vion. Vion noticed she's upset so bought her a strawberry cake to cheer her up. She's such a sweet little friend of my girl!!

With this, i have to let my girl aware that this world is not a perfect world. She will face different types of people in school. She needs to learn how to take care and protect her own belongings. I doubt she understand me as she's sobbing and in grievance.

Darling,be tough and strong ya!

My poor little girl down with mild food poisoning

As usual, i wont be picking up the kids from school on Thursday. Was busy at the kitchen when the kids came home, both got up for their own shower cum water play time after school. Out of the blue, my girl told me she felt cold after shower, actually it's first sign of her not feeling well as she's not fancy with hot water, and always prefer to shower with cold water. Thus, she will never complain cold after shower. But, the careless mummy didn't get the first hint.

After dinner, she told us she felt cold and where should she stand to keep herself warm. Oops....luckily daddy is alert enough and quickly check at her forehead. Actually, daddy also missed the first hint when he felt her little hand a bit at warm side when he picked her up. Quickly, we let her take half of the paracetamol tablet.

The poor little girl so worry about her school homework and insisted to finish the homework. However, she dozed off in front of her small table. LOL!

I hate it very much when the kids down with fever....this means, i can't sleep peacefully at night. Need to keep waking up to check at them. We fed her paracetamol every 4 hourly. She vomited two times, once yesterday night and the other time was this morning. Poor girl.

Since she looks tired and kinda weak, so we decided to keep her at home. After few round of medication, she seems better and the vomit seems under control. Wish she will recover soon as next week will be her first school exam . Get well soon, darling !

可爱又可恶的哥妹俩

君子报仇千年不晚， 这可是对的。
妹妹一直喜欢作弄哥哥，然后哥哥一直以来都是忍气吞声。。。但是，人总是有极限的嘛。就在有一晚，哥哥终于决定报复。

哥哥很奸诈的从bathroom 走出来，很“友善”的请妹妹刷牙去，还告知妹妹他帮了妹妹准备牙刷，牙膏。妹妹对这善良的哥哥从没怀疑过。
一会儿，妹妹从bathroom 跑出来，问，为什么牙膏那么辣？？？！！！

哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈哈。。。。
可恶的哥哥笑个不停，很神气的说，“是我将妈咪的牙膏放在你牙刷上，谁叫你常常弄我！！”

那可怜的妹妹，听了哥哥那么讲，也没反驳。头低低的走进 bathroom 去。我和老公俩完全没介入他们的纠纷，我们在暗暗地笑。他们弄两真的是可爱又可恶的哥妹俩！

Time flies

Time flies....school already started for 1 week plus. I remembered, when my boy started his primary one school life in 2013, i talked to myself "how am i going to speed up the time so that i can lessen my miserable suffer", but it's just like in the blink of an eye, my boy completed his primary one school life and he's in primary 2 now.

The 7 weeks school holiday seems not enough for all of us. I was busy with my work til the very last 2 weeks of the school holiday, finally i am able to take a rest. However, who knows, the fist week of my off week, i was down with bad throat infection, there go my plan to spend time with the kids. By the time i fully recover, it's almost time for the kids to get ready for their 2014 schooling life.

Hope 2014 will be a smooth sailing year for both my boy and girl !!

开课了！

给儿子。。。

很多人会觉得我太保护孩子，孩子已经是二年级学生了，我还坚持要在开学第一天仍然到学校去。I am who i am, you can choose to accept or reject me, however, i am still me !

身为职业妈咪，我已失去了一起与孩子成长的机会，现在若我仍不放下工作，陪一陪孩子，恐怕我会后悔。我记得，去年当孩子上一年级时，一个朋友讲，我们只可能有这三天的机会待在学校倍孩子，下一次再来，可能就是孩子毕业的时候了。讲得蛮有道理。虽然，我时不时会到孩子的学校去，但在不同时候和情况之下，毕竟心情是不一样的。

今天，我仍然很开心，因，当我看到孩子开心的笑容时，我觉得，小小的牺牲( 学校好热，我简直是汗流浃背）是值得的。

宝贝，二年级了，加油！！！

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给女儿。。

妹妹，K2 了，是学校里的大姐姐，要乖乖哦！ 妈咪没到学校去，因妈咪知道学校里的老师会照顾你。哥哥就不同，因哥哥到国小，凡事都自己处理。

宝贝，幼二了，加油！今年是你在幼儿园的最后一年，明年你就会跟哥哥一起上学去！

Foam Party at Hord Rock Hotel

Being invited by an old friend of mine to Hard Rock Hotel foam party, when i told the kids about the plan, both of them looking forward to the event.

It's my fault, i gave the kids wrong info, i told them "the party will be in the pool and the whole pool will be filled up with foam". However, when we reached the pool, realized that the event is not in the pool, but it's beside the pool.

The hotel actually set up the foam party by the beach and keep pumping lots of foam into the pool for the kids to play. In fact, the session being separated into kids and adult. Kids session from 5 til 7pm; whereas adult session is from 7pm onwards. At the entrance of the foam pool, there's an arch shape water spray for the kids to clean themselves after they being covered by foams. Kelvin enjoy playing with Vanessa and Joel, however, Kaitlyn doesn't seems enjoying herself. We managed to make her play with the foam for awhile before letting her to play in the real pool with water.

It seems like after awhile, all kids get tired with the foam and they decided to deep into the pool. So, for us, we just need to keep our eyes on the kids as they are jumping in and out from the water. Finally, the lucky draw session start. Both Vanessa and Joel names being called out and they won small souvenir. Poor Kelvin and Kaitlyn, they get nothing..but glad that both of them enjoy playing with Vanessa and Joel.

It's tiring, hungry......after get the kids showered, we went to Penang Swimming Club for dinner. Ooops, wrong decision, there are club function and the kitchen busy serving food to them. So, we waited for almost 45 minutes before we can fill up our tummy. By the time we finish our dinner, it's already supper time, 9:20pm. We ended up the day by saying goodbye, see you to each others with 4 grumpy look kids.

弟子规小状元

After one year of learning 弟子规, it's time for you to enjoy the fun of attending the 弟子规 certification ceremony.

On 1st Dec, we went to Han Chiang Secondary School for the 小状元 certification. As you only taking one small part which is 弟子规, thus, it's consider the easiest as compare to the others who are taking  弟子规, 三字经，百孝经  and many more.

We reached the hall close to 9am and it is already crowded with people. Each of the participants will need to go through a one to one test with the invigilator. The Invigilator will have choice of asking the student to do the recitation sequentially or randomly. This is to ensure the kid know the end to end of the whole concept of what they have learned.

While waiting for the rest to complete the exam and also for result, the thoughtful organizer do arrange activities to keep the kids occupied. After around 2 hours, finally the result is out. Congratulations , my boy!!! He passed the 小状元 certification. Well, it's not the end yet. Each of them need to go though the 状元门，a sign of them being certified 小状元.

The whole session finally ended by 12 noon. It's tiring but yet a fun day for the kid!

Well done, Kaitlyn !

Few days before the prize giving ceremony, teacher told us she won prizes in all the 3 languages writing competition. I still remembered, on the prize giving ceremony morning, when my girl wakes up, she told me she gets number 2 placing in her class, and i jokingly tell her that it must be there's only 2 student in her class.

Frankly, all the while, i under-estimate my little sweetie pie and i put more attention on her brother. I feel so bad for not focusing much on her and i am so proud of her achievement.

Well done, my sweet little girl. Keep it up!

爱尔兰三星期工作+游

每天我都会与孩子们通电话，一开始，我回很想他们，他们也会想我。。。但是，就像我一个朋友所说的，时间可以冲淡一切思念。慢慢的，孩子们就没心跟我聊。时间过得好快，三个星期 (10/4 ~ 10/27) 就这样的结束了，是倦鸟归巢的时候了。再见爱尔兰。

沉重的心

一直以来，我以为妹妹还小不会因我不在而伤心。但是，我的确错了。还有一天，我就会离家三星期，公干去。

这几天，我再提醒妹妹，出乎预料，妹妹竟然告诉我她会很伤心，会想念我。我试着告诉她，妈咪会买很多礼物回来。再次，出乎预料，她竟然告诉我，她什么都不要，她只要我别去公干。听了，简直就像被人狠狠地从高处扔下来!!

宝贝，妈咪会每天打电话回来跟妳聊哦。只怕，到时候，妳不要跟我聊罢了。还有，记得别跟哥哥打架或吵架噢！

Leaving home with heavy heart

Dear babies,

All the while i am looking forward for a business trip. When i get the opportunity, without second thought i accept it. However, after awhile after i settle down, my inner heart kept asking me whether should i go or not. After checking with daddy, he very supportive, so i continue with it.

In less than 2 weeks time, to be exact, in 10 days time, i will be flying to Limerick and will only be back home after 24 days. I never be apart with both of you for that long, and i never let both of you of my sight for more than 24 hours. This gonna be a big challenge for me.

For this round, daddy will need to do all the exam revision with both of you as keke's exam fall on the week right after i left. As for meimei, the exam is on end of Oct, so it depends, either during mummy's final week in Limerick or the week right after mummy reached home.

I was thinking how to tell both of you about my long duration business trip, however, daddy informally inform both of you and as expected, both of you do not show any supportive reaction.

Keke , you told me that you will definitely sad as you wont be able to see me for so long;

Meimei , you asked me why can't i only go away for 1 or 2 days.

Babies, of course,  i also wish that the business trip can be shorten. Mummy hope that both of you will listen and corporate with daddy while i am away.

Also, for this year, i will missed the birthday celebration for three of you, keke, meimei and daddy.

Kaitlyn first time to dentist for filling

 

Poor you! While all of us enjoying our dinner in the restaurant, i noticed that you suddenly stop eating and your eyes become so watery. As soon as i asked you what happened, i can clearly seeing tears dropping down on your both cheek. You tried to hold your tears very hard though. You kept sobbing and told me "toothache"

Actually, we brought you to dentist last month, however, due to gum swollen, dentist advised not to do anything til the gum back to normal. Few days later, you told us no more pain, and we just forget about it. Til last night, the pain decided to visit you again.

After dinner, koko asked for McD McFlurry, and initially you told us you don't want any. However, as we approaching the McD ice cream kiosk, you said you are ok and requested a cone type ice cream. Happily, you finished up the whole ice cream all by yourself . Thought everything is over.

NO NO NO!! It's not the end yet. You were up all night crying from toothache, til finally daddy decided to give u paracetamol to ease the pain. Luckily it helps to make you sleep well til tne next morning.

The next morning you wake up freshly and say no more toothache, however, we do not want to take any risk. We told you that we will bring you to dentist at night, and to our surprise, you agree with our plan. ** That really make things easier, at least we no need to create story to make you go to dentist**

I guess one of the reasons you are not afraid of going to dentist is due to i used to bring you along whenever koko went for this dental checkup.

Due to it's emergency case, thus, we don't have prior appointment.Daddy dropped us at dental office around 7pm and we just waited for less than 10 minutes for our turn. No fuss from you when we get into the treatment room. Happily you corporate with the dentist. And in about 10 mins time, we are DONE!!!! Bravo my girl!!! Thumbs up !!!!

First time giving speech on stage

When i being told that my girl and another boy will represent their class giving introduction speech during mini concert, i was so worried. True enough, feedback from teacher is she can't remember the speech even though it's only few sentences. I tried to make her recall what are those sentences but she will stop after she introducing herself. **slapped forehead** However, her partner, the other boy can remember the script very well.Since this is their first time standing on the stage delivering few sentences to so many eyes and ears, their thoughtful teacher decided to pair them up instead of only letting one of them delivering the introduction speech.

On the day before the mini concert, finally my girl can clearly delivering the entire speech for me. However, i still worry as she never has the experience of giving speech in front of so many people. I kept telling her that tomorrow she will stand on the stage and many people will be sitting and standing in front of her. I am not trying to scare her, but i want to give her some hint so that she will not get shocked when she's up on the stage.

Finally..the day has come!!! We reached Penang Times Square around 7:05pm, 5 mins late per the supposed assembly time. However, knowing that Kaitlyn wont be performing til after lantern parade, so we slowly walk towards the assembly area. The area was crowded by parents and performing kids. I helped to tie up Kaitlyn's hair before teacher start to put veil and make up for her.

 

For this year, Kaitlyn and her classmates will be presenting an Indian dance with title "Naandiya". Kaitlyn and one of her classmate gave a short introduction on the title of their dance before they start performing. My heart was pounding when i saw my girl walking towards the mic. I worry that she may have stage fright and forgot all her speech, but seems like i over-worried, she in fact deliver the speech well. BRAVO!!! 

And it's not the end of my worry, next will be the dancing time. Again, i worried that she will forget the steps but again...i under estimate my girl. She did very well in the dance !! I feel so relief as soon as the dance finished.

It's really a great achievement for my girl, and i feel very thankful to all the teachers for giving her an opportunity to deliver short speech in front of so many people. This indeed can help my little girl to build up her confidence.

Go or No Go???

All the while when i heard of daddy has business travel opportunity, i will feel that he is so lucky. He used to travel almost once every year. After looking forward for so long, finally, i am being given an opportunity  going to Limerick, Ireland for job assignment. And the duration is 3 weeks!!!

When i heard of this, i was so excited and at the same time has a mixed feeling. Shall i go or no go? I had missed out few business travel opportunities in the past, and this time i need to break the curse! When i told daddy about this, he is very supportive. And i told him my major concern is whether will he be able to handle the 2 of us for 3 weeks, and he kept assure me that "no worry, everything will be fine!" Hearing this, i still have mixed feeling as i never leave both of you out of my sight for so long.

Per the current plan, i shall be away from home from 2nd week of Oct til week 4 of Oct, also means that i will miss the 3 of yours birthday celebration. But well, like what daddy said, opportunity will not knock on my door everyday, so if being given the chance, i should take it and go all the way!!

Thanks daddy to be so supportive !!! 

心疼妳的成熟

一直以来，女儿会比儿子比较善解人意，也比较会看我脸色。我以为即将换工，可以放慢脚步，慢慢的将手上的工分出去。我竟然那么天真。我还天真到跟女儿讲我会有更多的时间陪伴她。

我昨晚，做到忘我境界，竟然忘了每个星期四女儿有上额外的英文补习，所以在学校的午睡时间会比平常短。到我觉悟时，女儿已是很累很累。我就问她为什么没提醒妈咪自己很累。让我没想到的回应是，五岁的女儿说，“妈咪，没事，没什么啦，我自是很累，但我看到妳在忙着工作，我就没吵妳”。天啊！！！女儿这句话，她的出发点是要安慰我，但是，她的成熟想法就有如一支很尖很尖的针，深深地插入我内心深处。我竟然那么的粗心，没察觉到女儿很累，还以为她在享受卡通片。仔细回想，我记得，我看到女儿一直在不停地换电视节目台。那就是她发给我的讯号，“妈咪，我很累”！

我真的是个很不称职的妈咪。:(
女儿啊，妳可不可以别那么懂得替妈咪着想，有时，妳得狠很得挎我一巴，让我清醒点！！

The contradictory me

My boy very sticky to me, and sometimes, i really wish that i am tough enough to turn him down and leave him alone to train him to be more independent.

For unknown reason, he cried when we drop him to daycare, and this lasted for almost 1 month until i almost wanna seek for child psychiatrist's help. And thank goodness, he decided to end the crying all by himself. And now, he is back to his happy go lucky behavior.

Yesterday was his school's sport day and this is his first time attending sport day. He being selected by his teacher to represent the class to participate in the game. When he told me about this, i am as excited as him, and in fact, i am more excited than him, LOL!  I applied leave few days before the event.

On Monday, Kelvin come back and tell me the schedule for the next day, and he said in fact, i an just drop him at USM Stadium and pick him up around 11:30am. In fact, he doesn't expect me to be there to see him participating the game, When i heard of his plan, suddenly i had a mixed feeling, happy and sad. Happy that my boy is now feeling comfortable to be with his friends and school teachers; happy that my boy is slowly getting more independent; sad that my boy is growing up; sad that my boy soon will no longer need me to protect him.

At the end, i told him that i would like to be there to see his participating in the game, and also i already promised aunty Doreen that i will be there, so i need to keep my promise to be there on his sport day. Delightedly he said he is happy that i can be there. Actually, not only me, daddy and also mei mei also went to USM stadium to give him our morale support.

So, should i feel happy or sad when i see my boy getting more independent???