Both of YOU are GEM in my eyes! 宝贝,你们最珍贵

The value of a gem is in the eyes of the beholder. My boy has his own unique-ness which is easy going and over energetic, he has endless energy ! My girl might not carry any good value in certain peoples' eye but to me, she is unique, she has her own personality and she has the innocence-ness which a kid should have.

No doubt academic performance is important, but to me, i prefer good attitude rather than good academy performance. You may not be the top students in study, but, i am proud of you. Darling, "just believe in yourself!", "success all depends on the second letter, U!"

I keep remind both of them, don't overjoy or upset on your current performance, life is full of unexpected challenges.

Boy, i am proud of you, and good job on your academic performance! 棒!! However, i have one condition, remember rule of thumb #1, "DON'T impose too much pressure on yourself ! "
Girl, your result not as good as keke but i know you have done your very best! "Keep it up! 加油!! 输在起跑点无所谓,最重要是, 你要和赢者一起达到终点."

A Heart Wrenching Moment - 心疼你的委屈

Yesterday night, my girl told me she was whipped by her teacher due to she doesn't walk back to her desk per the way  teacher has in her mind. She mentioned to me she did try explain to her teacher, but teacher insisted she saw it differently. So end up, she being given a love whip on her palm. (I reminded my girl many many time, if teacher want to punish you, **well, can we say no, of course we can't, ** make sure teacher doesn't hit on your hear, face or vein. )

When i heard of what happened to on my girl, i was so mad. I angry at her because she doesn't has gut to defend her own self. However, after a beauty sleep , this morning when i wake up, i told me girl, "you will get to meet many different types of people in your life, some are kind, some are not. So don't because of this particular teacher and you feel all teachers are not good. There are still many kind and good teachers who you will meet later.

We always tell our kids need to be kind, to be fair, give chance to people to do their explanation, find out the truth before we make any conclusion. However, in school, there's no room for a kid to explain why they do so, before they can open their mouth, a "sign of love" will be landed on their skin. I bet it's based on Chinese idiom "打是疼,骂是爱". **sickening!** And if i go to school to have friendly talk with the teacher, some teacher will give a "free upgrade" to the kid and the kid will become the most "favorite student" in the class, and the kid will have hard time throughout the whole year. So i just keep the frustration on my heart, and forget about it after a good night sleep.

I came across an article few days ago, and the message that i get from the article is "No point wasting time and energy confronting someone who doesn't trust you at first place. You rather spend your time to do other more valuable thing. Life still goes on without this people in your life!"

宝贝,妈咪其实很心疼你的委屈. 但是, 你要记得, 不管你遇到任何困难, 妈咪会永远支持你. Don't let what you can't do stop you from doing what you can do!

Inner Struggle ~ 内心的挣扎

Has been a decade i didn't update any post. Ever since first kid started his primary school life, i have cut down the time spend in front of computer, unless i need to complete urgent work.

Today, i started to write my first post for year 2016.

**Disclaimer: This is purely my personal feel/ opinion**
As soon as i reached home, my son told me his sister gets last position in the class. When i heard of this, immediately, i felt the sky falling on me. Deep in my heart, i kept telling myself, "it's ok, not a big deal"; but on the other hand, my brain kept telling me, "no no, it's not truth, it should not ". Do i emphasize a lot on her academy performance? Of course YES. If i say No, then i am lying and avoiding facing the truth. Yes, i do care on her academy performance even though i know she has her own limitation, i can't push her too much. I kept telling myself, academy performance doesn't guarantee her future. But, at least, her result shouldn't be so bad. Otherwise, all the efforts that daddy, me and tuition teachers put on her will be down into the big monsoon drain. So, i walked to my girl and check with her, thank goodness, she gave me other answer which is much better than what the brother told me.

As for my boy, i know he has mixed feeling with his results. For this round, we encounter some bias and fairness situation. He asked me where is fairness when teacher marking their essay paper.  And i really don't know how to answer him. I can't tell him "boy, i agree there isn't fairness being applied in this round's exam marking". What i can tell him is " no point crying over spilled milk, i know you have done your best, i am happy for you."

孩子们,加油! 前面的路还很长,这次的考验,只是过云雨...别被一时的挫折打击你的信心!!! 别理张三说什么,李四要做什么, be your own-self, I am proud of you for doing your very best!